Thank you for saying this. <3
Hello everyone! Thank you all for being so brilliant and lovely to me and each other. I just wanted to let you know that tomorrow I’m going on holiday for 2 weeks so I won’t be posting until I get back.
- Emma x
Hi. :) I think so, yeah. I remember reading something once saying INFJs can be terrible “hoarders”. I’m bad at letting things go; physical and emotional!
It’s really tough to feel that way. :( It’s normal to want to be liked but, like I said to the last anon, taking things to extremes like this isn’t very good for your well-being. But I know it’s difficult to stop being like that; you’re probably very empathetic and it comes naturally to you.
I think the first thing you said might be more normal for INFJs than many other types, particularly Ts, but in extremes it isn’t really normal for anyone to take responsibility for making sure everyone is okay all the time. Obviously, it’s good to be kind to others but you should try not to let all your feelings of self-worth rest on it or feel guilty about it. Balance is usually the right way to go for most things.
Perfectionism is normal for INFJs (though not necessarily healthy), so that fits with the second thing you said.
I get a bad conscience easily too! I think it is normal for INFJs because we often think a lot about issues of morality, and our values and principles are extremely important to us. This combined with our perfectionism can lead to us scrutinizing ourselves and feeling overly guilty.
Hello! Well, I actually have social anxiety disorder but I’m pretty sure I developed it partly because I’m very empathetic (a common trait of INFJs) and that mixed with my already anxious temperament was not good. I became very self-conscience and over-analysed everyone else’s behaviour to try and figure out what they were thinking and usually came to the conclusion it was something bad about me.
So, yes, I often feel uncomfortable in those sorts of situations. Sometimes even when I’m not feeling anxious I find it hard to talk to being I don’t know because I’m so useless at making small talk, which I know loads of INFJs struggle with too.
That’s interesting! Thanks for sharing. It’s true for me, I’m obsessed with the written word.
ESTP: super attractive physically but it’s all downhill from there. never quite know what they’re going to do next but you can probably bet it will be irresponsible. somehow still lovable.
ESTJ: loud, logical, and get shit done — they are the warrior class of the life rpg. power stats make them unbeatable and if you encounter one, maybe just curl up and forfeit, to save time.
ESFP: giggly little shits. fun fun fun till her daddy takes the t-bird away. great for lifting your mood, not that great at lifting your credit score.
ESFJ: too appropriate, totally lacking in awkwardness. they’ll never forget your birthday, which will make you feel like shit when you constantly forget theirs.
ENTP: excellent companions if you enjoy people who instantly see through all your shit. very clever and very intuitive, you can’t fool them. i suggest you invest in other friends — ones you *can* fool.
ENTJ: impatient with people who make mistakes, namely, everyone. they’ll respect you if you stand up to them but why do that when you can run away instead. cuddle them and see what happens. i’m curious.
ENFP: too puppy to live. best suited for the profession of musical nanny. not advised for use around an open flame.
ENFJ: way too charming and capable, maybe they should stop making everyone else look bad. prone to making other people care about stuff they didn’t want to care about. so annoying.
ISTP: such butts. best suited for an apocalypse scenario, if no such scenario exists, they will create danger because they get bored. don’t encourage them, but don’t discourage them, as reverse psychology works too well.
ISTJ: low drama and low maintenance, best value at this price tier. best suited to actual human existence. least weird, which makes them kinda weird.
ISFP: squishy little darlings you might want to keep in your pocket, but please don’t or they will become forlorn. they notice everything, and it’s unnerving.
ISFJ: quietly and proudly do things for others. if you have a ring you need to deliver to mordor, take an ISFJ along with you for best results.
INTP: cute intergalactic spiders you want to hug and mistrust. prone to making you laugh but then days later you will wonder whether you were the butt of the joke.
INTJ: major dicks and kinda proud of it. prone to being right. prone to liking trance music way too much. all the ones i’ve ever met have been unexpectedly kinky. so i guess, expectedly.
INFP: they fall out of the sky and are raised by unicorns. if you feed one it will follow you home. they dissipate in water.
INFJ: chameleons appropriating your emotions and going quietly mad. prone to meltdowns and needing lots of naps.
You sound so much like me. I really want to live a life of integrity by only doing things I truly believe in. It’s difficult for me to remember that not everyone’s actions are guided by principles, but in order to not get too upset I think I need to remember that; people just act without thinking and that doesn’t mean they intended to cause harm.
The pursuit of knowledge and a degree can be fulfilling and worthwhile, but that’s not enough for me either, I need a strong spiritual life as well as an intellectual one. For me, that’s not any kind of organised religion or deity but a feeling of oneness with the universe and, like you said, acting on my principles. Meditation is good too.
I hope things go well for you. :)
INFJs aren’t inherently overly sensitive. I think it’s just that a combination of I and F often make us so but sensitivity is separate from mbti (at least in my opinion). I wrote in the ‘about’ page that I’m a Highly Sensitive Person and I know a lot of followers are, but I remember asking a while ago if people were HSPs and a good chunk of people said they weren’t, so there are INFJs like you.
Hi. Thank you! I’m not convinced there would be much differences apart from those caused by societal/cultural pressures, like you said. From my experience, I’ve seen that men who are Fs often try to hide or downplay their sensitivity and emotionality because in our society people associate these things with women and think it’s degrading or bad for a man to be like that. So, INFJ men might often appear to be more similar to INTJs than INFJ women, in general.
I agree!! Thank you so much for the suggestion! I’ll post it in just a sec.