: I was stalking your blog and saw how man INFJs don't like "go around the circle and share" moments. At first I was confused because I actually enjoy those. Then I realized that in reality I just give the same answers everytime in order to not actually share that much about myself. It's like creating an illusion that I'm an open person when I'm really the complete opposite. I just wanted to share in case anyone else does the same.
Thank you for sharing! You’ve given me an idea about how to cope in those situations. :)
: Hello! I'm an INFJ as well and I was wondering if this happens to other INFJs too. Whenever I read, I find it very easy to put myself in the main character's shoes. Once I actually had to put a book down and take deep breaths because something horrible was happening to the main character and I was close to breaking down and screaming. I was so overwhelmed with emotions. My friends tell me it's a bit strange. I just want to know that I'm not the only one who feels this way.
Hi! You’ve perfectly described what reading a book is like for me, and what I thought it was supposed to be like for everyone. Personally, I think it’s a bit strange that your friends think that’s strange.
: Hi, I recently broke up with my ISTJ boyfriend. I am INFJ & since the break up, it's been really difficult for me to appreciate what is good abt myself. I want to be logical, in the moment, sensing, factual, action taking, forward--not so deep, overly empathetic, dreamy, weird, "pocahontas", intuitive & emotional. I want to have fun and not think abt what things mean & how other people feel. But that's all I do, I can't just have fun! I see all the layers of how other ppl are feeling. Pls help!
Hey, it sounds like you want to be more like an ISTJ as well as a bit more SP, which is a shame because you’re great as you are. Did your ISTJ boyfriend say anything to make you feel ashamed of how you are?
There are loads of different ways to have fun! You don’t have to have fun in the same way that most people do for it to be real, valid fun.
Us INFJs can often carry the world on our shoulders and our seriousness can bring us down, but thinking about meaning and feelings can be fun too. Watching films and reading books with these kind of topics is fun. I can’t help you if you want to change into someone you’re not. My advice is to embrace who you are and really love who you are.
: Hello. I'm an INFJ with really all your typical characteristics, like being overly empathic, appropriating people's feelings have very strong ideals and really just a typical INFJ but recently I've noticed I have developed some INTJ characteristics like self-confidence and that I'm being a bit more logical than I used to be. I still have a lot of the traits that identify an INFJ but could I be turning into an INTJ?
Hi. Personally, I don’t think it’s possible to change personality types, but that’s just my opinion. I think you’re developing your Thinking side, but that doesn’t mean you’re not an Feeler anyone. It’s good to develop your other sides, and self-confidence is definitely good!
: Hey! So, do you know what the five love languages are? If so, do you think it's important to be aware what someone's love language is as well as what their MBPT is? Or do you think most INFJ's have the same love language?
Hi! I didn’t know before I received this message and did a quick bit of reading on it. It’s very interesting so thank you for introducing me to it! I think it’s good to be aware of someone’s love language as I think this will differ between INFJs. However, “words of affirmation” sounds very appealing to me, possibly because INFJs are said to need a lot of praise and take criticism badly.
: Is it weird that I am not really into writing? Like I love all the other creative arts, like art, music, dance, etc but the only subject that has never been my forte is writing.
I don’t think so. INFJs are often good at/drawn to writing but we’re not identical so it’s normal for you to find your own way of expressing yourself that works best for you.
…and the weight of the earth is pressed to my ribs.
I am only so indecisive because I see so many sides to everything.
This is often a trait of INFJs. I just can’t ignore all the possible outcomes and repercussions of each decision. It’s exhausting.
Fe wants harmony between others.
Sensing approaches this through concrete ways: feeding good food to guests. Dressing well to impress others. Bringing people together for parties (even at their own expense as introverts). Having pleasant decorations around the house. etc. These things will be done with very little intuitive assistance, and sometimes to people’s detriments (ie. an ISFJ will be so wrapped up in making sure a loved one is happy eating her meals she won’t connect the facts that her cooking is making the loved one obese).
Intuitives will attempt to get to the root of what makes a person happy. They will council their friends till they are blue in the face. They will put on “false fronts” for different people according to what they believe those people want. They will have grandiose visions of ways they can help the entire world. etc. Because Sensing is an INFJs inferior, the INFJ often ignores the “real world”, becoming detached from things like their personal decorum, monetary gain, and the ambition to see their goals through to completion that Si helps with.
: Thanks for sharing our band photos. I am an HSP, too! - Scott
You’re welcome! I think your band is great :)
: could you and/or some of your INFJ followers share their opinions on ISFP? does any INFJ have a close ISFP friend?
My sister is an ISFP and the two of us are very close! I love her gentle nature and kindness, which I’ve found to exist in most ISFPs. We used to clash a bit when I’d get annoyed with her inability/refusal to plan ahead or her messiness and she’d get annoyed at my fastidiousness and inability to ‘go with the flow’. But thanks to MBTI, we understand each other very well now so we laugh about these things. I suspect a lot of my favourite celebrities of being ISFPs too.
: What's the difference between a typical INFJ and a functional narcissist- who I suspect is also obsessively concerned with mastering their own volatile mental landscape?
Well, I don’t know much about narcissism but from the little bit of reading I’ve just done it seems narcissists lack empathy and are selfish, which is often not true for INFJs. Narcissists also seem to be extremely self-absorbed and self-interested, which would not be true for a typical INFJ. I don’t know how/if functional narcissists might differ from this.
I’ve read that “Narcissists perceive themselves to be unique and special people” which bears an obvious comparison to INFJs who are likely to think this because their inner lives are very different from most people’s. Having said that, I would hope that everyone perceives themselves to be unique and special in some way.
I don’t know enough about narcissism and functional narcissists to really explore this though, sorry,