INFJs are private, preferring one-on-one friendships to crowds, and often quiet about their own feelings. They are often thoughtful, artistic, and wise, and prefer to operate behind the scenes. (x)
Hiya! I’m not sure what I think about changing personality types in general, to be honest. I’ve always held the view that a person can’t change type, but this is just my view/theory and I’m open to thinking otherwise. :) You know yourself, and if you’ve observed a change then I can’t argue with that.
These are most of the INFP blogs I could find:
There are three types of INFJs in this world:
The INFJ 1 - the business-like, aloof INFJ with severe OCD.
The INFJ 2 - the overly empathetic pushover.
The INFJ 4 - the one with issues who’s simultaneously self-absorbed and self-deprecating.
i never get over how accurate this is
"They are, in fact, sometimes mistaken for extroverts because they appear so outgoing and are so genuinely interested in people — a product of the Feeling function they most readily show to the world. On the contrary, INFJs are true introverts, who can only be emotionally intimate and fulfilled with a chosen few from among their long-term friends, family, or obvious "soul mates.""
INFJs are creative nurturers with a strong sense of personal integrity. They are guided by a deeply considered set of personal values. They are intensely idealistic, and can clearly imagine a happier and more perfect future. They can become discouraged by the harsh realities of the present, but they are typically motivated and persistent in taking positive action nonetheless. The INFJ feels an intrinsic drive to do what they can to make the world a better place.
I just really like my personality type.
INFJ from Canada here!
I have followed this blog ever since I found out I was an INFJ just over a year ago. Realizing that I am not alone and that it’s okay to be different has given me lots of hope. The pain caused from 25 years of not knowing I was special (but not a special snowflake) will never go away, but it’s blogs like this, and people like YOU that make it bearable. When I’m feeling defeated and like the weight of the world is too heavy, I come here to remind myself that I am not alone, and that solitude is not always the solution.
Thank you for making this blog Emma, you are an inspiration and prime example of what an INFJ can do if she or he puts their mind and potential to good use!
It’s amazing how one night, i can feel so amazing and actually begin to really understand and like myself, and the next day one person can make feel like garbage. He can’t see everything. He sees what he perceives, and views it as gospel. I try to talk and to clarify, but he just labels me stupid, childish, and crazy. An emotional blackmailer. He manipulates without being able to see that he is manipulating. He does it defensively and automatically, without conscious thought. Sometimes there is so much to see, that my mouth gets tongue-tied trying to describe and communicate it all. Confrontation leaves me drained and incapable. It’s so painful i have to forget in order to keep going. He makes me feel weak, and less than nothing. He doesn’t respect my mind or my space. I’m different from him, but he expects me to be the same, to work on his schedule and to do what he wants to do. He says i will reflect and regret my actions when he is gone. Is he leaving? or is he threatening to kill himself? either decision hurts me because i love him. He comes out fighting a battle when i didn’t even know a war was going on. I am alone. I’m conflicted. How can my feelings be so different from reality? I’m an INFJ, and he’s a ENTJ family member.
I think it’s probably an INFJ thing to place so much importance/symbolism in your actions. Also, I think INFJ’s often care less about social conventions (such as two kisses, in your case) and instead act purely from the heart, which is probably why we’re often bad at small talk (because small talk is, in most cases, a pretence). It seems a shame that your sister’s boyfriend doesn’t understand, I hope there’s a way you could explain it to him without it being awkward.